3 Things I’ve Learned Since Coming Online

When I first came online, it wasn’t for fun or to connect with friends or classmates. It was about finding an outlet for thoughts I couldn't eliminate. I had no clear plan, I just wanted a space where I could express my thoughts, talk as much as I could without any interruptions, and without worrying about judgment from those close to me. As time passed I started to see the bigger picture. I wanted to create an audience that resonated with what I had to say, not because they knew me, but because they understood what I was going through. Here’s what I’ve learned so far in this journey

1. My voice matters and I get to control it.

It wasn't about putting myself out there, it was about letting an expression of myself that was hidden out. It was about allowing myself to be confident in my voice and share it with the world. The internet became my platform to let these thoughts flow freely without the filters. Over time I realized just how powerful that is. I have the power to shape the narrative, to be vulnerable if I choose to be and even to be someone else if I want to. It has shown me that my voice is valuable, and I can control how I use it.

When I started, I wasn’t scared of being vulnerable like I am now, then it was all about the release. It's not about pleasing anyone or trying to fit into an image. It was about showing up as me and seeing who responds. And that has been the most empowering part of this journey. The more I shared my thoughts the more I felt in line with myself and the people around me

2. Failure is a part of the process, not a roadblock.

When I started out online, I wasn't sure about the right thing to do. My write-up didn’t meet what I wanted to express, and there were times when I felt invisible. I loved the invisibility part a bit, but I started seeking growth. The internet has taught me that failure is not avoidable, it is actually something we have to learn to embrace, It’s not something to fear, it is actually a good thing.

I had to get comfortable with the fact that I won't get everything at once or even do it perfectly, and that’s okay. The more I allowed myself to be free from expectations, the more I was able to learn from i,t and the more I've grown. Each setback has been a stepping stone. I've realized that failure isn't an end but a speed bump, it is all just part of the journey. It is a call to do better, to make adjustments, and to keep going. The beauty of the internet is that it gives you space to try, fail, and try again all while growing your confidence and skill.

3. We’re all just figuring it out
One thing I have come to realize is that we are all trying to figure things out. When you’re starting to share more of yourself online, you often think everyone else has it together while you’re still trying to find your footing. But what I’ve learned is that we’re all navigating life, challenges, and growth in different ways and that’s okay.

Whatever experience I choose to share I’ve found that there are people out there who get it. I’m not alone in my struggles or my dreams, and this has really kept me going. It has shown me that others are also walking similar paths, though at different points, but it was a shared journey. This understanding has made me more patient.

What started as an outlet ended up meaning something more to me. The lessons I have learned about myself, my voice, and others have impacted my life in more ways than I expected.

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A TIME I HELPED SOMEONE (even for free)

It was a Saturday morning, one of those mornings when I just wanted to be done with my chores so I could start attending to my major tasks of the day. I had gone through my morning chores swept the room, tidied my corner, washed the few plates I used yesterday and was ready to start my day fully.The hostel was quiet almost all the students were outside washing their clothes so it was the perfect time for me to focus without distractions.

That’s when I noticed one of my roommates. She had been lying on her bed since morning.No movement,no turning from side to side. Just lying still. At first, I thought oh,today is Saturday she's definitely catching up on some weekend sleep but as the hours passed, I realised she hadn’t moved an inch. That was unusual for her even though she was naturally a quiet person.

I went closer,tapped her gently, and said, “Are you okay?” She replied quietly, “No.”
I asked her what was wrong, and she said she was having back ache. I told her I had some pain relief ointment, so I brought it out. As I applied it to her back, I noticed her body was hot. Not the normal body warmth, but the kind associated with an illness.

When I was done with the application I told her to rest while I kept an eye on her. After some time, I came back to check and saw she was sweating. I took that as a good sign that relief has occurred.i asked her again how she was feeling and she said she was feeling better, but she still feeling weak.

I went downstairs to get something for her to eat so she could have a little energy before getting medications. I got her some biscuits. It wasn’t much, but I know when sick, even the smallest gesture can feel like a lot. She ate the biscuits slowly, and went back to sleep.

When she woke up, she was able to get down from her bed and take a warm bath. The relief I felt seeing her better was more than I can explain. I didn’t do anything much, no big medical rescue, no expensive treatment but I was glad I was present n the room at that moment.

Looking back, I realised that helping people doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture or something costly. Sometimes, it's all about noticing when something is wrong,caring enough to ask, and doing the little you can to make things better. That morning could have gone differently if I had ignored her lying there, assuming she just wanted to rest. But one small decision to check on her made all the difference.

It reminded me that kindness is often in the small, ordinary acts we do without thinking too much about it. You never know how much it means to the other person until you see them smiling again.

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DAY 3
A Lesson Life Taught Me That Applies to Business

The first time I saw the potential my hair had was the day I made a decision to truly invest in it.

It wasn’t in a bad place, it was already growing but I wanted more out of it. I knew that my old routine of installing a protective style and leaving it till it was time for takedown wouldn’t get me anywhere.

I wanted better.

So I sought knowledge everywhere I could. I watched videos on hair care, and I opened an Instagram account specifically to follow and soak up content from different hair influencers with 4c hair. I was intentional about it.

As time progressed, I experimented with herbs to see if they had any potential benefits. I know Hair grows naturally on its own but I needed a foolproof routine to make sure I maintained the length and health of my hair

While this might seem trivial to others, my hair journey has taught me a lot, and linking it to the area of growth, I can see some improvement in my everyday interactions.

1. Patience pays
My hair has taught me that results take time, but little things done one day at a time build up to something bigger. Hair doesn’t grow overnight, and neither do results in business. We are in a world that constantly celebrates quick wins, but my hair journey has reminded me that real and lasting change is built gradually and in layers.

2. Unlearn, learn, and relearn
It taught me how to unlearn, learn, and relearn. I have made a lot of adjustments to my hair routine, my hair products, and even my choice of protective styling. In business, markets change, strategies expire, and you have to stay adaptable.

3. Pivot When There’s Stagnation
Almost two years down the line, it has taught me to notice signs of stagnation early and make changes before things get worse. In business, that means recognizing when a campaign, product, or method is no longer effective and then having the courage to switch things up.

4. Intentionality Brings Clarity
The more deliberate I became about my hair ( that is, tracking progress, adjusting methods, seeking guidance ), the more I got clarity on what truly works for me. In business, intentional focus cuts through the noise and avoids wasting resources on things that don’t serve your bigger goal.

My hair journey might have started as a personal way of having fun, but it turned out into something more. I could call it a masterclass in growth. Whether it’s nurturing my hair or starting a business, these principles remain the same

1. Start with a vision.
2.Commit to the process.
3. Stay willing to adapt.

And most importantly, give it time.
Because just like hair, the most beautiful growth happens when no one is watching.

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What I Do (Even If I’m Still Figuring It Out)

I don’t think I do a lot these days. After spending a long time chasing skills, I feel like I’ve lost myself, and now I just want to take a step back. One thing that hasn’t changed for me, though, is the desire to build relationships between people , that sense of connection, of offering hope, and of being a solution to someone.

I’m currently learning to be okay with where I am, to enjoy the stillness after chasing the noise, and to go back to where it all started. I wouldn’t call myself a storyteller, but I love words and the effects they trigger in people. My words are my tools, and I think my mission is to make people feel seen and normal.

I have always been a reader. As a child, I was constantly lost in books and over time, writing became an escape route,a way to release thoughts I couldn’t express simply by reading and soaking in different realities and knowledge.

I may not know exactly what I want to do right now, but I know crafting words will be part of my future. I want to be a voice for those whose emotions can’t be expressed, a light to those in the darkest tunnel, a healer to those who have been hurt and broken down by words.

While in this season of stillness, I’m building myself up as a writer who offers healing and empowerment to my audience. In the future, I see a community, a space for creatives, for those seeking growth, for those seeking healing coming together to show the power of words. A community that inspires a generation to seek more from life, beyond the ordinary.

I might publish books someday, but I think I would want my words, my speech and my life itself to be enough content, filled with lessons for those who come after me.

Right now, I may be figuring things out but I know this: I am a lover of words, a builder of connections, and a believer in the healing power of what we say. And even in stillness, I am still creating.

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DAY 1

WHY I CAME ONLINE

I would say it is a force of habit. Some days curiosity drives me, the desire to know what’s going on. On other days, I’m looking for an escape, a way to get lost in something so that I forget my current reality. But today was different.

I woke up tired. I actually wanted to sleep more, but funny enough, my body said no. It took a while before I could push the thought of sleeping away. Standing up from that bed, I knew I had a long day ahead of me, and this was not the day for scrolling aimlessly, seeking fun, or trying to escape reality. I just wanted to tick some boxes off my list, be productive, and get on with the day.

I picked up my phone and the moment my data came on, my phone lit up. Messages started flooding in from every corner, but I went straight to the class group. One question lingered in my mind, Will there be classes today or will it be a free day? I actually hoped it would be the latter.

Then something unexpected dropped, the long awaited exam timetable. I stared at it for a moment reading through the dates and courses. I was feeling unusually calm. I do not always freak out normally, but this calmness was a different vibe. The timetable just served as a reminder that now is the time to be serious. Looking back now, I still find it hard to place where that calmness came from.

The group chat exploded with reactions ranging from emojis to stickers. Complaints about the tight schedule and the lack of breathing space started coming in. As I read through each message with amusement, a thought crossed my mind, Has there ever been a time when my course mates did not complain about a timetable? I doubt it. It is either too spread out or too packed, never satisfactory.

In truth, yes, it was packed. No gaps between papers, but oddly enough I liked it. I just wanted to be done with my exams. I could see the finish line clearly now from a glance and it brought me instant relief rather than worry.

So maybe that is why I actually came online today. Not for distraction, not for idle conversation but for a little reminder that I should keep holding on and not give up because the end is almost near. To me, the timetable was not just a list of dates, it was proof that the end is closer than I thought and I cannot wait to be done with it.

I am not prepared yet, but I know I can be as long as I work towards it. After all, it is just an exam, not a life sentence. And maybe that is the surprising part of the day, not the timetable but how calm I am about it. I do not know if this is a sign that I am growing or that I'm just tired. But I know, at the end of the day I will come out of it rejoicing and saying this was the best semester ever.

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